Everyone wants to have a strong relationship with their partner, but they might not be sure how to keep it that way. Life can become busy, stress can take over, and relationships can be on the back burner. However, when you want your relationship to be happy and healthy, there are plenty of things that you can do to create a lasting bond that goes beyond how crazy life can become.
Making time when you have none
It’s essential that you create some time in your hectic life to be with each other. Even when work and home life becomes crazy, you need to be able to retreat to this time in order to reconnect with your partner. This means that every day, you should have some time set aside for you and your partner to be with each other. It doesn’t have to be hours, but it should be time that isn’t spent doing anything else by talking to each other. A five minute backrub or a walk around the block is all that you need.
Make contact each day
If you’re working in separate workplaces, you will want to make sure that you are contacting each other once a day. A simple email or a quick phone call can let the other know that you are thinking about them and that you want to let the other know that you care. It doesn’t have to be anything long and involved – just a little email that says ‘I love you and hope that you have a good day’ is sufficient.
Find out what she needs
Too many times women can feel like their needs aren’t being attended to, but then again, they might not let you know either. What you need to do is ask your girlfriend or wife what they need from you – physically, emotionally, etc. You may be surprised to hear nothing in response right when you ask, but if you give her some time, she will let you know what she needs and truly appreciate that you thought to ask. It will also show her that asking for something will allow you to be there for her.
Listen to her
When your girlfriend or wife is having a rough time in her life, you need to be sure that you are being there for her. Women aren’t necessarily wanting advice at these times (unless they ask), but rather a shoulder to cry and vent on. They want to hear that they’re not crazy for thinking something and that their feelings are validated. You need to sit with her and let her know that you are there for her to listen.
When you do give advice
If there comes a point when your wife or girlfriend might need advice, or there’s something going on in your relationship that needs to be fixed, you will want to pay attention to the way that you say it. By focusing on the fact that your feelings will change when your partner changes their behavior, it takes the ‘blame’ from her and redirects it to helping you. Likewise, allowing her to see how changes can help her will help her realize things that she might not have realized. Never, ever criticize – focus on helping.
Do more than is necessary
Each day you should be waking up to ask yourself the question of how you can make your partner’s life better that day. If you can even help her out in one tiny way or do some little thing that makes her day easier, then you have paved the way to a healthy relationship that allows you both to feel connected and bonded to each other.
Love all of her
There’s something to be said for the idea of loving someone so matter what. You need to realize that she is human and that she will make mistakes, but that when you forgive her or just don’t make a big deal out of little things, she will begin to trust you more and realize that she doesn’t have to ‘impress’ you. Sometimes when a woman tries so hard to impress, she will make mistakes, but when you let her know that you love her and care for her just the way she is, it doesn’t matter anymore.
Source: Cucan Pemo